Posts by Broken Hearted

If I were you I would be spending my time hugging and playing with your precious daughter instead of trying to make sense of a crazy culI a

Well see there was this nasty divorce, and well I get my children every other week( which I fought for he wanted full custody i asked for shared and won) so I have extra time ( not really but get depressed being alone). My 18 year old has chosen to not live with me anymore, because I won't let her tell me how to raise my other children like her father and his girlfriend does.

For a week now I have been on this sight, The Watch Tower sight, Reading 3 diffrent Translations of the bible ( KJ, NWT, and New American Standard,) Would have a 4th translation If I could read Greek because I also have a Greek New Testament. I have also been in long conversations with the Guy that is a JW and find myself Overwhelmed. I am getting addicted to all this and the research. I feel like I am going in all kinds of directions and needing structure. I feel at a dissavantage because I don't have access to the books and publications from the WTS, I am not looking to tear down this religion, just trying to understand. I was accused of looking for the negative, by being on this sight, I don't really think that is what I am doing just trying to get understanding of something I have never been exposed to and was raise to fear.

I know I have gotten a lot of help here, and can't express the thanks. I know this journey in my life right now is going to be like climbing a huge mountain and not having the proper equipment I might fall and get hurt.

I will say a postive thing I have found out about the JW religion, though people are complaining about it, They do make you study and learn more about what they tell you that you believe, They know their scriputre and thier history. While I was raised in the church I will confess that I am relying on memory of what I was taught in Sunday School or what the service was about. I have never gotten in and studied it for myself. I was considered a trouble maker as a teen in the church, I would always think out side the box and question things, and when I would ask what about this, I was told that the Bible was ordained by God and that I should just accept what was written. That we would have all the answers after the Rapture. I instead of doing more research on my own shyed away from it.

I feel I am vunerable becasue I have not been in a church in 10 years regularly, ( many reasons and you can read some of why on this post I did here http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/8/111074/2.ashx) . And I am not where I need to be spiritually and have blamed God for some of the devasting things tha has happened in my life over the last 4 years. (Daughter that is needing a double lung transplant) I also have a mother that would sit and preach at me about faith and trusting God yet I did not see the fruits of it in her life, or judging me when clearly the bible says that we are not to sit in judgment that is for God to do, oh and by the way speaking of that is that not what the elders are doing, when they DF someone? My jw guy has tried explaining this DF thing and he is getting frustrated because I don't see it has a healthy thing. ( By the way he has been DF once himself ) He has suggested I call my local kingdom hall to get the answers maybe they could explain it better. Told him was not doing that, then I asked him if his elder father would be able to explain it a better way.

Guess I am looking for suggestions on how to not be negative on this research . I realize that there is a lot of hurt here, and rightfully so from what I am reading . How do I answer those type of questions about where I am getting my information and that the people feeding me the lies are people who refuse to listen.

Another Question why does a JW when answering a question always have to use and anology to get their point across and not just answer the question at hand?

Okay guess I have vented enough this morning. See what I mean about being all over the place and my mind in overload?

Also, just a heads-up, a JW parent would probably allow your second child to die rather than take a blood transfusion. The JW lifestyle comes at a cruel price.

Perhaps most of this is a moot point. As far as I know, the man you love has already decided to return to the meetings and give you up. If he does come swinging back your way, I'd be sure to nail him down on his stand on accepting blood.

We are still talking, and acutally since the elders have found out about me, He is calling me more and texting me and online with more now. We have discussed the blood issue to extreme, and I am not wavering on this at all. He is not happy about it of course but I have told him not his daughter not his choice. She has already had blood platelets to keep her alive during a surgery she has last year. I don't fully understand what the issue is about the blood. I really am not out to change the way he believes. I do question him on lots of issues not to make him waiver in his belief but for my sake of trying to understand. I don't know why we just can't live our lives loving the persons we both fell in love with and answering to God (Jehovah) in our own ways, I guess I am too much of a romantic opinionated optimistic person which means i am sure in the end the heart will be broken. I read one time only those that give up are failures. I am not giving up on him however I know he might give up on me. IF that is the case I did not fail he did.

This sight is doing something, It is giving people a chance to vent, for one, secondly giving people like me that have no clue about the religion to get answers from those that either are still going or once was.

okay with me being new to this site and learning about this religion, What I find interesting is the sign posted "We must obey God as Ruler rather than men. Hmmmmmm and who is ruling the people in this religion, and who is spying on others in this religion, and who do you have to answer to in this religion? sounds like Men. So they are not even following the scripture they have posted.

I know they are encouraged to attend these but are they like the meetings you don't go and people will be breathing down their neck?

Can someone tell me what the purpose of the conventions are and what does on at them? Trying to still research this religion and understand more from the outside.